a space for grieving

My sweet Oliver died in his sleep on Friday, July 8, 2016. I’m using this space as an outlet for my thoughts, coherent or not, that I need to get out.

Oliver was 4 months old, and leaves behind a twin sister, Avery, a big brother Henry, and two heartbroken, grief-stricken parents.

Author: unaffected

Infertile mother to a 4-year-old and a 1-year-old twinless twin. Surviving motherhood after infant loss.

12 thoughts on “a space for grieving”

  1. I’ve been following your journey off and on since before Henry’s birth. I am so very sorry for your loss and my heart just breaks for what you’re having to go through. Every mother’s worse nightmare. 😦
    I wanted you to know that I am thinking of you and your sweet family. Big hugs.


  2. I can’t even believe this happened to you. I was so thrilled to see that you popped up in my reader. And then I read all your posts. This is horrific news and “I’m sorry” just doesn’t cut it, in my opinion. But I am. I am so sorry that you are enduring this loss and that you have to go through this. This sort of thing does not make an ounce of sense and my heart is breaking for you and your family. I wish had words to ease your pain but there are none. I will be here to read and send love and support as best as I can. Again, I’m so sorry…


  3. Your blog was the very first blog I ever followed and now I am following you here. I can’t even begin to imagine what you are going through but please know you and your family will be in my prayers. I am so sorry for your loss 😦


  4. I too was happy to see you in my reader, but this is too terrible for words. I have no wise words for you. It’s so incredibly unfair. I wish I could give you a hug and let you scream and yell and cry. I’m so very sorry and will be praying for you.


  5. Words are so inadequate. Completely useless. I’m heartbroken for your family and in tears as I read your posts. There is nothing that can be said to make anything better. My heart is with you and your husband and your beautiful Oliver.


  6. I really just started getting to know you through Facebook when your twins were born. I have thoroughly enjoyed seeing all of their pictures. I am heartbroken for you and your family and so sorry for your loss of sweet Oliver. Sending love and hugs your way.


  7. I have been following you since before you conceived Henry. Reading this news was like the floor fell out. There are no words… Truly. No words can describe your pain or your loss, and there are no arms so strong that your grief will be eased. You are on a lonely path that no one can travel for you, but know that we are here, walking along beside you. So, so sorry.


  8. I’ve followed you since before Henry. I was happy to see a new post, but horrified when I read it. I know sorry sounds generic, but I truly am sorry for your loss and heartache. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. To read your heartache with ttc and now with the loss of your beautiful child just makes no sense to me. I am so very heartbroken for you.


  9. I too was excited when I saw a post come in for you. I’ve debated whether to even post a message but here I am. It is not fair what has happened. I will never understand these things. Nothing can take away this pain but I am crying with you and your family. My thoughts and prayers will be with you guys.


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